Soulmates don't exist. Agree or disagree?

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[D-Zine]

Humm...why the question Delete? Curiosity?

I...umm...I think they exist. I know my mom and dad were soulmates and I like to think there is one out there for me allthough he is apparently playing 'hide-n-seek' at the moment *rolls eyes*

I have more thoughts...I think I will save them till others post some on this subject... ;o)

lol

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[Keyare]

I think there are

spoon.

[morea]

I do too.

I'm wondering how you define 'soul mates', DY... and then I'll throw my other ¢ in.

You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

uhmmmmmmm, actually no. I’ll tell you why. People are different no matter what happens so take a brother and sister they grow up together, in the same home, learn from the same parents and go to the same schools but to get along an effort must be made.

So now take two stranger that there perspectives in life are even more skewed. The amount of work that has to be put in to make this work is enormous but love overcomes all things. So if you really love each other there has to be a ton of work do to get along.

So my opinion is there is no magical, special person that just clicks. There might be the rare case but that is the exception and to be practical looking for this your whole life is a waste.

Marriage is based on a “Vow” made out of love but notice that it says in good or bad! Why? Cause life will bring good or bad. The problem arises when we don’t value that person that we once loved (maybe even thought of as sole mates) to the point of working out the problems.

Sole mates are made they are not found. So that’s why I say no cause in the way society classifies this statement it’s in a perfect sense and nothing in life is perfect. So I say no there is no such thing but it can be created.

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[ReedHendrix]

Benjo said...
Sole mate

Benjo, have you got a bit of a foot fetish? :-)

But I agree with Benjo on the whole Soul Mate thing.

[Debz]

i believe u have a few. u just need to find them.. and LOL @ DZ hide n seek. heh :(

[Mickey]

Soul Mate: No


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ReedHendrix said...
Benjo said...
Sole mate

Benjo, have you got a bit of a foot fetish? :-)

But I agree with Benjo on the whole Soul Mate thing.

LMAO! You Fkn guys!

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[Tyger]

I think you create your soul mate, if you are fortunate enough to meet someone you dreamed of, obviuosly you would think them to be your soul mate. In fact i think you can have many soul mates......the closest friends around you are your soul mates, the people that are near and dear to you have some sort of influence on you to enhance who you are as a person. I feel like my wife and I are meant to be together in this lifetime, and yes it feels right but i know it was because of working through our differences and enjoying what we have in common.

You create your life, you create your soulmate.

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[Debz]

Mickey said...
pancake Buddy: YEEEESSSSSSS!


lol hell yeah! i need to get one now! wo0o! http://www.graphicdesignforum.com//emoticons/yeah.gif

[D-Zine]

I dunno guys...I don't believe soulmates are 'made'. Sure you have to work to make the relationship work, that is true of any relationship tho, as benjo stated. But just bc you have to work at your relationship doesn't mean that person isn't your 'soulmate'

Soulmate: One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity
someone for whom you have a deep affinity

That doesn't say anywhere in there that you have a perfect relationship where you never fight and that you ALWAYS get along...now THAT is impossible...LOL

I don't think looking for your soulmate is a waste. When you find that person, you know. It's not like you are literally looking and searching up hills and under rocks..haha! I know that I wouldn't want to marry someone that I didn't have that strong connection with, that two people can have. I feel that would be a waste.

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[Debz]

damn.. guess i should stop lookin in the bushes for guys hiding.. ;/ heheh

[DivineDesign]

Yes, they are...made or found....but they are out there...mine is at boot camp right now :(


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Today I begin to understand what love must be, if it exists.... When we are parted, we each feel the lack of the other half of ourselves. We are incomplete like a book in two volumes of which the first has been lost. That is what I imagine love to be: incompleteness in absence.

Of course your going to be lovey dovy at first but ask Kool, he has the most experience here lets see what the wisedome experinece has gained has to say.

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[D-Zine]

Its not about bein all lovey dovey...ROFL! There will be bumpy roads in any relationship, reguardless of whether or not your soulmates - that's just part of life.

Look at me benjo..I'm 29, single, relationship history is just...crap...lol...got nothing to brag about in that department but I still say soulmates exist :oP Maybe not everyone will find theirs but some do.

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[Jason Fraker]

I knew that I wanted to marry my wife the first time I saw her. We passed each other in the hall at our high school, and I knew that I wanted to marry her before I even knew her name. The only thing is, it took me 3 years of dating her and 2 years of being engaged to her to fully convince myself I was ready. The last 3 years of marriage have been great. The only thing I wonder about is how it keeps getting better (and also why she married a dork like me!). So, I guess I do believe in soul mates.

-Jason

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[DivineDesign]

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[Drorain]

i do believe it, I hope that something will hit me in the head to let me know the right one has come by

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[morea]

I think of my soul mate as 'the one' who is always there for me, and makes me feel complete - the balance aspect of your soul - yin to your yang. When you meet 'the one' you do not have to ask, 'is this the one?' - because your soul tells you it is so.

Your soul mate is someone who is on the same frequency as you, who you care about as deeply for as you care for yourself, and who you are willing to make the effort to work things out with, come what may. It is not a 'perfect' realtionship, for such things do not exist - but it is a shared committment, a decision to live for each other, and to care for each other your whole lives long, possibly even beyond.

You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

[D-Zine]

presactly morea ;o)

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[DeleteYourself]

Ok, sorry guys, got caught up with some hectic crape there for a minute.

No particular reason for asking the question. My girlfriend and I were discussing and it, and I think it's an interesting topic. I don't think soulmates exist. I think the belief that there is one (or more) special person you are 'destined' to be with is about as fictional as the Bible (sorry, all in good fun, I don't mean to offend anyone).

I think that there are people who you are compatible with, and everyone probably has several of those (depending), but I don't think that there is anyone we are 'meant' to be with. One of the main reason I beleive that is probability. Think of how many people there are in the world. Billions, right? It just doesn't seem probable that with that many people, anyone could really meet their 'soulmate.' I guess that's part of the mystique, though? But why then, people's 'soulmates' generally also happen to speak the same language, live in the same country, or sometimes, even grow up in the same town? It just seems that if soulmates exist, chances are your soulmate won't live in your general region of the world, or even speak the same language of you.

I don't know...food for thought.

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[morea]

I won't take a stand on it from a religious perspective, but here's a thought...

if you are 'meant' to be with someone, that implies that it is 'someone's will'... i.e. God. And if He truly 'meant' it to be, he will arrange things so that it happens, by finding a way to put you in the same place at the same time.

You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

[DeleteYourself]

Exactly. So, I guess my entire reason for not beleiving soulmates is religous in nature.


(i promise, I never intended for this to become a religious discussion!)

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[morea]

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Sorry! /emoticons/biggrin.gif

You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

[DeleteYourself]

Duped by God again! LOL. /emoticons/frusty.gif

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[uncle carbunkle]

unless you believe that we're all made up from the same spiritual consciousness and therefore all part of the same ether or 'soul'. so everyone you meet is attached to you inherently and a 'soul mate'.

...OR...

you're all just a bunch of big girls blouses.


either way, i'm slinking off to be cynical and jaded on my own. >:P

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[D-Zine]

ROFLMFAO @ Delete!!!

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[Debz]

Jason Fraker said...
I knew that I wanted to marry my wife the first time I saw her. We passed each other in the hall at our high school, and I knew that I wanted to marry her before I even knew her name. The only thing is, it took me 3 years of dating her and 2 years of being engaged to her to fully convince myself I was ready. The last 3 years of marriage have been great. The only thing I wonder about is how it keeps getting better (and also why she married a dork like me!). So, I guess I do believe in soul mates.

-Jason


aweeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!! thats so sweet!!! http://www.graphicdesignforum.com//emoticons/biggrin.gif

[DeleteYourself]

Damn, Unc. You had to get all cosmic on me and isht.

:]

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[uncle carbunkle]

isht!

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[Magnus]

Personally I think the term soul mate is misleading. What is a soul? If you believe in the religious context of the soul, then there must also be a master plan from God for everything (which is why we're polluting the environment, killing hundreds of species a year, killing ourselves, etc. etc.)

If your take on the idea of a soulmate is someone that is made to fit you perfectly, like a key in a lock, give your head a shake. We live in an off-the shelf world where compatibility with another human relies on about a million random factors coming together to produce something we can work with. No one was "meant" to be with another person. It comes down to attraction and what one human requires physiologically out of another human. Mating requirements then blossom into psychological ones. The couple either grows with each other and stays together, or they don't. There's no magic to it. In fact, you can take any example from the animal kingdom to prove it, just as you can prove any other facet of human behaviour.

Why people insist on believing in an unseen "something" boggles my mind. Some may say "Oh my, I saw this or that person, and I knew it was love, I knew we were meant to be together." Sure you did. You saw a person and experienced a deep, emotional and physical response generated by a person's appearance, which you have assigned the term life mate too, because that's the only term that can describe such a feeling. Unfortunately, as time often proves, this person is in fact not right for you at all. For those that are successful have merely played the numbers game and got lucky. The same can be said for the lottery, or getting hit by lightning. A myriad number of random factors came together to create a positive situation for you and another person. That's not magic.

I think in the end it's dangerous to label anything regarding human behaviour, unless you've done a ton of research and coupled it with life experience. When something goes against the label we've given it, we make up some silly excuse. This is true for every situation involving anything that can be absorbed by the human senses.

If you think I'm a disbeliever, that's cool. But you may want observe the social psychology displayed in many species of mammals. Consider what they look for in a mate, how they keep them, etc. etc. Then, I'd suggest picking up a good book on social psychology and human personality. Once you've read them, start applying what you have read to what you observe in those around you. Analyze everything you can, from your friends, family and your own experiences and see what you come up with. If you have half a pint of logic, the truth should be easy to grasp.

Attributing something to "soul mates" is like saying magic creates lightning, or the earth is flat.



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[morea]

Magic *does* create lightning... doesn't it?

You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

[Magnus]

Ok, fine...but that's the ONLY exception!

"It's not cheating if you win."

- A VERY wise person.

[uncle carbunkle]

personally, i have troubles believing in the moon, because i haven't been there. and i generally go with the whole 'the earth is round' deal, because i haven't gotten far enough away to get my own view. and it keeps me out of the nut house.

that's the human dilemma.

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[Magnus]

Yet you can see the moon with your eyes. You can see it better with a telescope. If someone has gone through the trouble of somehow making a special effect that moves at about 28,400 mph and has 1/5 earth's size...just to fool us, then my hat is off to them.

Besides, commercial space flight isn't too far off in the future...in fact, I read somewhere that people were trying to buy real estate on Mars. So soon you'll have a chance to go for a vaction on Moonbase 1 or Mars Station 5.

"It's not cheating if you win."

- A VERY wise person.

[DeleteYourself]

Will the Jetsons be there too? /emoticons/wink.gif

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Magnus we have been seeing eye to eye lately and you did a great explanation. Good job!

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[uncle carbunkle]

i can see the moon with my eyes, yes. and i believe in germs and bacteria and telepathy. but i don't believe that one person, or humanity as it is right now, has all the answers or is even capable of them.

i believe the earth is round right now, because it makes sense to me and keeps me from going berzerk. but it wouldn't suprise me if there was a different explaination of things, either. because i have only other people's word to go on.

that's all. i'm pretty flakey that way!

soulmates? haven't found one yet, or maybe i have and we were only together whilst we needed to be. who knows?

doesn't anyone have any work to do? :)

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[Keyare]

I took 'Soul mate' as someone very similar to yourself with tons in common and the similar interests.

What if you don't like yourself? You'd HATE your soulmate!

As far as CHANGING someone else to become your soul mate... well that's just rude.
Unless they chew with their mouth open and smell like Shrek.

spoon.

[Ryan8720]

Don't believe in soul mates. I do believe in Shrek and the moon though. Kind of disappointing that the moon isn't made of cheese.

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[Jason Fraker]

Didn't you see the Best of Will Ferrell DVD, Ryan? The moon is, of course, made of barbecue Spare Ribs. That's a given. The only question is: would you eat it?

-JF

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[Kool]

benjo... said...
Of course your going to be lovey dovy at first but ask Kool, he has the most experience here lets see what the wisedome experinece has gained has to say.

Well this kind of puts me on the spot. Hmmmm.....
After giving this a great deal of thought and carefully examining my 16 years with my mate I have come to the following conclusion:

Beats the pancake out of me! /emoticons/biggrin.gif /emoticons/cool.gif

I love children but I don't think I could eat a whole one.

[D-Zine]

ROFL @ Kool!!

Wallace and Grommit say the moon is made of cheese ;o)

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[morea]

Too funny, Kool!

You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

Great answer Kool! Love it!

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[neet]

soulmates?
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[DeleteYourself]

what the hell? i don't know whether to LMAO or shudder...

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Oh, and Welcome to the GDF...

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[D-Zine]

umm...errr... *shudder* ???

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[morea]

just goes to show that you can sell *anything*! LOL!

You've gotta do what you've gotta do.

[uncle carbunkle]

'Soulmates don't exist. Agree or disagree?'

apparently, mine is enormous. no...no, wait. HUGE.

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[Keyare]

Look out behind you!! It's Darth somethingorother with a giant neon attack dildo!!

No... wait.. that looks like Defjoe'spink stick.. hmm

[uncle carbunkle]

oh. it seems it's not so HUGE.

*poop*

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[D-Zine]

the pink ones never are unc.....

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[uncle carbunkle]

ha! you learn that on your excursion to the blues bar? :( ah, well at least the music shoulda' been good! ;)

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[D-Zine]

Noo it was at the 2 bars I went to before that one...and the 2 after maybe! Hell..I can't remember...haha!! There was a funny lil guy walking around with one of those pink things saying something like 'the force is strong in this one'. Humm.he musta been drunk or sumpin! ;o)

Unc - I got there at like 12am....the band was walking out when we came in. I was pissed! LOL! So I had 2 beers and on to the next bar - O'Connels. I did a walk through there with my friend Aaron, but their band reeked. Went over to Malones after that....Decent guitar player....music was pretty good.....very cute bartender with a nice Irish accent ;o) Everyone I met kept asking me if Aaron was my boyfriend tho - this can be a problem when your 2 best friends are guys but its all good, I had a pretty good time.

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