Holy sh*t balls!!!

[Magnus]

Guys, I live above a scottish highland dance studio ok? Anyway, the one instructor is 23, really cute and so forth. So obviously I talk to her now and then....anyway, I come home tonight, am sitting at the computer when I hear "Hey Matt, you alone?". So she comes up, and we hung out for like an hour and a half, then I walked her outside to her car...spent another half hour talking...at one point we got really close. In the end, we hugged.


Problem is she lives with her boyfriend, who's a complete drunkard, treats her like crap and so forth. It definately won't last. ANYWAY...not sure how to proceed, I like her...but I have many concerns, obviously. (I also laughed because she's so young and living with some dude...yeah, that's a brilliant idea.).


Anyway....when we hugged, I actually got NERVOUS!!! Me, MAGNUS!!! The dominant male, the alpha! I felt clumsy, but I think it's because I am not sure what's going on.


I'll provide more details based on what you guys say.


Wierd eh? And we get along so well it seems.

- Win or lose, it doesn't matter...but I guarantee, you will respect me tommorow morning.

[DivineDesign]

Awwwwww......be there for her...:) And let us know what happens!!!

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[D-Zine]

First of all...LOL @ Holy Sh!t balls....LOL! Good subject line Magnus..eye catching! haha! This is kinda cool Mag. I mean she has probobly been kind of watching you for a little while...being ineterested in you but didn't know how to approach you. So by you and her talking now and then she has gotten to learn a little about you so that prolly made her more comfortable to approach you and hang out for a little while.


Sounds like she knows that her and that dude aren't gonna last.and doesn't seem she is that interested in him and he sounds like a real a$$ to her. I think she has prolly been checkin you out for some time now. Girls (atleast me and the ones I know) tend to observe who they are interested in fora lil while before we make a move. I guess its the whole rejection fear. Anyways...I say just go with it if you are interested :o) Just take it as it comes and lets us know whats up <img border="0" src= "smileys/smiley2.gif"> Cool!

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[defjoe]

they won't last.... that is for sure and she has an attraction to you. Just wait your time my friend...it will come. sounds to me you have an in...it can only go up from here.



Remember...you start to go out with her you have to get a picture...new GDF rule!



"I will become the most powerful Jedi ever!"

[Magnus]

Good call guys. I'll get a pic once I have one. Any requests on positions?

- Win or lose, it doesn't matter...but I guarantee, you will respect me tommorow morning.

[court6478]

Missionary?

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Time has come between us and those we called our own,

They're names now etched in granite

And faces in the stone

[D-Zine]

I vote 69 but thats just me! Oh wait....stop...rewind...play...Umm ..errr...What are we talking about again?? ROFL!! <img border="0" src= "smileys/smiley9.gif">

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Who says doodling isn't constructive?!

[tallmikeG]

OMG...yes, pics! please try to keep your "little alpha male" out of the image though! :)

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[Magnus]

Heheheheh....tell me that wouldn't be funny though. Not a pick of mr. willy, but the two of us nekid in bed.


I'll see what I can do for real though...we'll see what happens tonight.

- Win or lose, it doesn't matter...but I guarantee, you will respect me tommorow morning.

[sscheer]

All you can do now is talk to her and pretty much be there for her when she needs it kinda thing. That is until her man is out of the picture, then go in for the kill. Good luck.

[Madora]

Even when he's out of the picture, I'd wait a while. Let her be single for a while... show her you're interested but want to give her some space/time to herself. I think some "me time" is good for anyone when a relationship ends... no matter how long you've know the end was coming.

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"Never miss a good chance to shut up."

[Magnus]

Yeah, that's what I figure. I wish I could meet someone without baggage though. Why...oh why oh lord?

- Win or lose, it doesn't matter...but I guarantee, you will respect me tommorow morning.

[sscheer]

Why do you say this chick has baggage? Is it just because of her boyfriend being a dick? And when you both were talking, was she giving you her whole life story? Anywho, I agree with Madora. Lay low abit and see what happens, but of course flirt with her abit to see how she responds to it.

[defjoe]

and if she needs sex...give it.



A woman has her needs. Who are you to prevent her from those?

"I will become the most powerful Jedi ever!"

[Magnus]

Dejfoe, I agree wholeheartedly. I have the feeling there isn't a lot of wham bamming going on there.


Sarah, this girl HAS A BOYFRIEND RIGHT NOW SHE IS LIVING WITH. If that's not baggage, then you and I must disagree on what baggage is. When we spoke, the first little while it was about her present situation. But after that, we just blah-blah'd about other things.


Just so we're clear, my def'n of baggage is:


- any past or present issue that has not been sufficiently dealt with in order for that person to move forward in their life. This can include family issues, social (past girlfriends), school, job-related and anything else that may cause stress. If a person doesn't deal with it, learn from it, andgo on then what happens is they carry it around with them. It affects their lives because it's always in the back of their minds, affecting their judgements and feelings, leading to bad choices.

- Win or lose, it doesn't matter...but I guarantee, you will respect me tommorow morning.

[sscheer]

MAGNUS: I read your posts carefully. Yes, I know she has a man, but if this is something that is stressing her out and she has not dumped him yet, I sure don't feel sorry for her one bit. She brings on the stress and the excess baggage by having him in her life. That is her choice, and it is something that I would consider as temperary baggage. THis is not going to affect her for the rest of her life after she moves on, sure it will affect her now, but she CHOOSES to stay with him.

[Magnus]

For sure. But it's still baggage...heheheheh. She said there's really no real reason she's staying. Her dogs (she reminds me a bit like madora) are one of the reasons...though I think if she tries hard enough, her parent's would take her back in a second. Get this, they've been together for 8 years...she's 23. Tell me that's not stupid. They've called it quits 2 times before, and a bunch of times she's told him to straighten out (He's a bit of an binge drinker, lost 2 jobs because of it). I dunno, we'll see. I didn't see her tonight...I had ball hockey. Which, I might add, we lost again, but I scored another goal.

- Win or lose, it doesn't matter...but I guarantee, you will respect me tommorow morning.

[Angel..]

all i have to say are 3 words 'GO FOR IT!'.. she likes you. its half obvious, the 'are you alone? the hug HELLO? yup... its all good matey all good! ;)

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[Magnus]

Nah, she's not worth it. My g/f rocks, and I'm glad I waited, now that's something no one can take from us.

"It's not cheating if you win."

- A VERY wise person.

[BuckarooB]

Are you kidding me??? Thread from a year ago and it's up and running again?

Mag, since you replied to whatshername above and this tale has been redredged from 7 computer years ago (one real-time year is equal to seven computer years)...

You must finish the story - So, what happened between the dance instructor's visit and the woman for whom you waited so long?

Give!

PS - weird isn't it how many women in abussive relationships continually forgive and make excuses for their partner - breaking and returning over and over again. Sad really...

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[DivineDesign]

LOL....there are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many threads from SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO long ago that are back for some reason....its like.....deja vu....

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Today I begin to understand what love must be, if it exists.... When we are parted, we each feel the lack of the other half of ourselves. We are incomplete like a book in two volumes of which the first has been lost. That is what I imagine love to be: incompleteness in absence.

[defjoe]

beating this dead horse

'I will become the most powerful Jedi ever!'

[Magnus]

You nailed it BB.

Basically, the G/F Came home...and as soon as I saw her at the airport where you pick up your luggage, I knew it was worth it. She's pretty much living with me know, and everything is great.

As for the dancer she's still in the same situation, probably will be 2 years from now.

"It's not cheating if you win."

- A VERY wise person.

[BuckarooB]

Cool Mag!

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