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Red Kittie Kat
07-19-2008, 03:32 PM
I have no idea who wrote this ... but I really liked it :)

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60&70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love .. I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.

They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

I like growing old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it)

garricks
07-19-2008, 03:48 PM
Kittie, thanks for that. It really touched me. :)

The funny part is, even though the back and the knees ache, generally looking out from in here, I don't feel any different than I did at 25. I just make more noises. :D

Kool
07-19-2008, 03:58 PM
That was great Red, it prettymuch described my exact feeling. Except the dancing part LOL, there has to be a line somewhere.

garricks
07-19-2008, 05:04 PM
Except the dancing part LOL, there has to be a line somewhere.
Well, there's always LINE DANCING (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RGpZ9bchCJw&feature=related)! :D

urstwile
07-19-2008, 07:20 PM
That was really nice, Kat. :)

Red Kittie Kat
07-19-2008, 10:24 PM
lmao Kool ... I don't do much dancing either :D

I'm glad you guys liked it .. It just said so many of the things I feel. :)

garricks
07-19-2008, 10:42 PM
Da Googe doesn't know who wrote it, either. :(

Red Kittie Kat
07-19-2008, 10:50 PM
I tried to find it too .... I wanted to thank them and then ask them how they read my mind ;)

vtwin_gary
07-20-2008, 12:31 AM
well i'm not over 40 but i'm damn close & it hit home for me as well thanks for sharing.

urstwile
07-20-2008, 12:33 AM
:eek: The Googe doesn't know!?!?!?! They must be too distracted with the whole Yahoo dealio going on right now. ;)

Red Kittie Kat
07-20-2008, 12:47 AM
heheh possibly Urst :D

and I'm glad you liked it Gary :)

garricks
07-20-2008, 01:18 AM
The Googe has bunches of reposts, but the ones I looked at all say "Author Unknown." It's even on Snopes.

Red Kittie Kat
07-20-2008, 03:10 AM
lol I wonder why it would be on snopes ... it's just someones thoughts .. some one wrote it :p

garricks
07-20-2008, 03:17 AM
Oh, sorry, actually on the snopes forums (http://message.snopes.com/showthread.php?t=1891). Been looking off and on, still can't find an author.

Red Kittie Kat
07-20-2008, 03:18 AM
ahhh ok now I gotcha :D

doubting_thomas
07-20-2008, 03:57 AM
Great post, RKK.

Kool
07-20-2008, 04:21 AM
Boy those people on the snopes forum are a fun and cheerful bunch LOL :rolleyes:

Red Kittie Kat
07-20-2008, 05:50 AM
Thanks Thomas :)

Wow Kool you are right ... I'm sorry I went over .. what a bunch of cynical grouches :(

MikeHun
07-20-2008, 03:01 PM
So true on that short essay, The new saying is that the forties are the new thirties.

garricks
07-20-2008, 03:27 PM
Kool & Kittie, reading at Snopes made me glad to be a member here. :eek:

Pointyhat
07-20-2008, 04:44 PM
Kittie, thanks for that. It really touched me. :)

The funny part is, even though the back and the knees ache, generally looking out from in here, I don't feel any different than I did at 25. I just make more noises. :D

Exactly!!!!

tuliptree
07-20-2008, 06:05 PM
I like that. I'm not 40 yet, but I'm darn close, so it hit home for me as well. I've become comfortable in my 38 year old skin. I feel like I've experienced enough that I do feel more carefree about things in general. I've come to learn that I've got nothing to prove to anyone but myself. That in and of itself is liberating.

Red Kittie Kat
07-21-2008, 02:17 AM
and all the above is why I love this group of peeps :D

doubting_thomas
07-21-2008, 07:11 AM
Being 40+ has really gotten me in touch with gravity. I never really
had a personal understanding of it until now. I feel 28 though and I
guess that's what's important. I still get carded at bars, even well lit ones.
Must be the lack of sunshine here, and my fear of bright orbs in the sky.

Red Kittie Kat
07-21-2008, 07:21 AM
lmao Thomas you and me both ... we should start a local chapter of FOOKUS

"Fear Of Orbs Keep Us Shaded"

:D

doubting_thomas
07-21-2008, 05:52 PM
I'd sign up for that!

WannaBrie
07-21-2008, 07:10 PM
Haha, @ FOOKUS, Kitty! I hear that one, Its hard for me living in the sunshine state and being a redhead. Thanks for that post, Kitty, it hits home in so many ways :)

Red Kittie Kat
07-22-2008, 01:55 AM
hey Us reddies or Gingers as the Brits call us have to stick together :D