A kid?

RUN like the wind!

'I will become the most powerful Jedi ever!'

ROFL @ Joe!!

Really... I think you have to consider how you feel about your current relationship. If you are having second thoughts about it then maybe it is time for you to move on. Maybe you don't want to be tied down just yet.

As for the new girl...really think about this. You hanging out and having a good time with the other girl is one way of letting yourself know that maybe you aren't really commited to your current GF. The new girl is in the process of a divorce and has a little boy, there are alotta things to consider here, I know! My BF is in the process of a divorce and has a 5 year old boy. You have to be sure you aren't like the 'rebound'. It sounds bad, but it happens. You don't wanna be that. Plus...the divorce has got to be difficult. I dunno about for a woman but for my BF it has been sheer hell emotionally, even tho he left her. It's not an easy ride and she may be kinda confused about stuff.

I think that first of all you should decided how you feel about your current relationship. Is she the person you see spending the rest of your life with? If not, then move on. It's ok to hang out with this new girl and become friends and see what goes from there. You have to have friendship before you can really have anything else right?!



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in your shoes...
just give it some time. first things first, make your plans and intentions with your current girl to allow for some space. maybe suggest seeing some other people. *this will give you a chance to meet with / date / the new girl, and give you time to question how deeply your feel about your current squeeze. realize there are one heck of a lot of women in the world.

in my shoes
i lack commitment, and a kid isnt something i could handle. *considering college, cutting things close with bills, and too many other things on my mind*. but i would keep her as a friend... always a good thing to have.

just do what makes you happy.
chris<pixelmonkey>

the monkey makes all the girls bounce!
*i'm an aerobics instructor too*

With a sweeping gesture, Magnus stands up and addresses the crowd.
Silence, i'll put it to you straight from a guy's point of view. You ARE 21...no need to be getting into any kind of big commitment with anyone at this point. I would hazard to guess that you have a lot more learning about yourself to do at this point, which can only be done through experience. If I were you, I wouldn't let your present girlfriend move in. I would wait at least a couple years.
These doubts you have about her could just be after effects about your arguments, but it's all about communicating. How is she feeling? What made you have stupid arguments...are there deeper, more concerning problems? Even outside pressures can cause people to snap on their significant other...I dunno why, but it makes you feel better sometimes.
See how things go with your present g/f...I'd say it's WAY to early in both your relationship AND your life to be making the decision to move in or commit. You're 21 bud...no sense denying all the other ladies out there the pleasure of being with you just yet.

As for the girl you just met. Let me tell you what I know, based on my own life. The grass ALWAYS looks greener on the other side. You have not yet experienced this girl's negatives. That's something to consider.

I know what it's like to meet a girl like that, where you just click and get along so well. But take caution. Either of you are in a situation where you can just be together with no worries.

As defjoe said....as soon as the word "kid" comes into the play...you run. Run your ass off.

Listen, that sounds cruel, but look...no matter how happy you are, unless you are ready for fatherhood, that fact will always be in the back of your mind. She will not be able to just pick up and go if you guys want to take off...a baby sitter will always be required and such.

Dating someone when you're 21 that has a kid already is a can be a huge burden. Take some time and figure out what it is you're doing with your present g/f, find out what it is you want in life and how to get it. Think about what it could be like to have a g/f who already has a kid. If it was me, I wouldn't want that. I want to start an empire from scratch, not someone's remnants.

Good luck man, keep us posted.

- There is a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path.

this is making me think about taking / accepting my own advice.
last summer i was 23 and asked a girl i'm still in love with to wed. she accepted less then 3 weeks before her 19th b-day.
just before her b-day she wasnt sure about things... and before september we were no longer together.


take your time, and if it feels wrong, dont keep doing it.
chris<pixelmonkey>

the monkey makes all the girls bounce!
*i'm an aerobics instructor too*

and keep running and when you think oyu can't run no faster... think of pooping and screaming kids... that will make you run faster!

'I will become the most powerful Jedi ever!'

ROFLMFAO!!!!!



Who says doodling isn't constructive?!

i would give advice, but im not one to talk mag did a pretty good job though!! I dated a 25yr old with a 4 yr old Satanic Monster when i was 18.....fun times, but yeah...didnt work out. do watever you want to man, your young, party hard and dont forget the helmet.



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I would give advice but it seems like the other day I was going out to bars looking for ladies and now I am buying a house and I am married....so maybe I shouldnt give advice maybe I should have SUCKER across my forehead

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Nahh...its different for everyone I think BP...just depends on the person. I mean you never know when your going to find that person! I found mine in high school, and I KNEW IT from the first day I swear but we were both just too dumb to realize how the other felt. Eleven years later we are finally dating.....crazy stuff!



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It's hit and miss...so to speak. Even if it seems like it will work right off the back, sometimes people (in my opinion) put their best foot forward, then after half a year or so you start to see the 'real' them. In any case, the trick is to get to know them, while keeping your head screwed on right, and your eyes open. Remember, you always have to take care of #1. You can't make anyone else happy unless you're happy.

- There is a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path.

I agree with Magnus. I am a big fan of a LONG engagement and even living together. do a trial cause a lot of different things will come out when you live together and have to pay bills and stuff like that.

'I will become the most powerful Jedi ever!'

And you do have to take care of #1...



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