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    #1
    Apparently I was rude to someone in the parking lot of Lund's in Edina on Monday morning.

    This is my first winter of having a car and I am making the absolute most of that convenience. The walk from my place to Lund's takes more than an hour, and obviously if I were engaging in such a walk I would have worn full-on winter clothes. But since now I only have to be outside for the walk from car to store, I sported my 11" gym shorts and a couple of sweatshirts. As I was crossing the parking lot into the Starbucks, an old lady saw me and said, "Aren't you cold?"

    I said nothing and kept walking. Strangely, as I kept walking, I heard her impatiently call out, "HELLO?!?!?" Except, as I established, I said nothing. Because, consarn it, what the hell do you say? You could say, "No," which is the obvious f**ing answer because I am obviously an grown man who is wearing what he's wearing; or you could say, "Yes." Which leads the discussion where? She's going to knit me some wool pants right there?

    Aaaarrrrgh.

    More jarring than the super-cold weather we're having in Minnesota right now was the fact of that lady calling out "HELLO?!?!" like I owed some dignity to her dead-end question.

    I friggin have no patience for small talk.

    (Therefore, this thread is of august significance.)

  • #2
    You say "old lady", so one respectful possibility would have been to smile & say, "Naw, I'm fine. Thanks for asking, though ... and Merry Christmas!"

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    • #3
      Originally posted by engineer View Post
      You say "old lady", so one respectful possibility"
      Ahh, respecticus.

      But again, what the heck is the point of the question, considering the two possible answers? If it's yes I am cold, then where the hell are we, conversation-wise, and if it's no I'm not then it's like doesn't my clothing choice yes CHOICE answer that question for you in the first place?!?!

      I don't think I'm fated to understand the point of interactions like that.

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      • #4
        I dunno, man, speaking a few words is pretty effortless, including respectful ones.

        Were you afraid of getting chatted into changing her tire or making a donation?

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        • #5
          Holler, "I'm okay, thanks!" and keep walking.

          I hate questions like that. Hot enough for you? Aren't you cold? Nice out, isn't it? Bah.

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          • #6
            Stupid question? Yes. But saying a few words in response would have taken you less effort than it did to create this thread about your inaction.

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            • #7
              I'm another who doesn't want to answer your inane question. Nor do I care to hear about a personal problem from the person inline behind me. Or how you like, love, hate whatever is in my shopping basket. And it seems the more obvious in what you have or are doing the more BS the question.

              I think it's more rude to get up in a strangers business than ignoring the BS when it's fired at you.

              Just saying, I'm with Sidewinder on this. It may be a Minnesota thing - but almost every single time I'm out and about - something like this happens and I find it super rude and annoying.

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              • #8
                I don't start small talk with in general. I think I have "tell me everything about yourself" written somewhere on my forehead. I've had an obviously delusional man tell me a bunch of freaky delusions. A few weeks ago, with a pineapple in my basket, a man asked me if I liked pineapples. I told him yes, I like pineapples. No harm was done in either circumstance and the delusional guy was really interesting. On Christmas Eve I was in the grocery store rushing around when an a lady from China stopped me. She didn't even know how to tell the prices. I ended up walking her all through her shopping. I got a lot out of that talk that started with a simple celery question.

                Ironically, your starting this thread is a form of small talk!

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                • #9
                  I see guys wearing gym shorts on sub-zero mornings walking into the grocery store and my only question would be, "are you an idiot?" If I cared. Which I don't.
                  Cars break down and get flat tires sometimes. You're gonna freeze your junk changing a tire in those shorts.

                  Now, if a woman was walking into the grocery store in a bikini, I might offer her my coat or something.

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                  • #10
                    I guess I'm different. First, I bundle up no matter where I'm going. Cars breaks down...you never know. Second, I might not initiate small talk, but I see no reason to dismiss someone who is just trying to be nice or interact in some small way. Life is too short to be Oscar the grouch.

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                    • #11
                      We had a drunk woman walk into the shop yesterday who asked if she could get out of the wind to light her cigarette. We engaged in small talk. I said "NO!"

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                      • #12
                        I personally enjoy a little small talk now and then, it makes me long for more face-to-face interaction with people rather than burying our heads in our electronic devices to text or IM with each other. This is part of the reason I go out of my way to go grab a beer/coffee/lunch/whatever with a friend when I'm their town or they're in the vicinity.

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                        • #13
                          As a winter shorts wearer in a northern clime I get that question a lot. I usually reply with something along the lines of "Yeah, but I'm more comfortable than I am cold." I also haven't worn a coat in years (I guess I just run hot) so I get "Where's your coat???" all the time too.

                          The guy who comes and swaps out our shop rags thinks when someone asks him "How ya doin?" or "What's up?" that it's time to start into a long-winded tale about his job/personal life/gym exploits. The coffee guy does too, but no where near as bad. It makes me wonder if there's some correlation to being a vendor that travels to the shops.

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                          • #14
                            You should have said "no", then dropped your shorts and said "but I am now"

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                            • #15
                              ^^

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