As you all know, my g/f is in New Zealand. A few years ago, she made some friends when she was travelling across Europe. One of those friends, some jimmy, is in Austrailia and she is planning on going to see him. This doesn't sit well with me because:
1. She was figuring on staying with him for a while. Ummmm...No. No sleeping at some dude i've never met's place...no showering, no nothing. Is this unreasonable?
2. I don't feel it's entirely a trust issue on her part...I do trust her. I don't trust him. For you ladies out there, ask one of your guy friends this hypothetical question: If they had a female friend that was relatively attractive, if the opportunity arose, would they have sex with them? I'm willing to bet 99% of the time the answer would be yes. In fact, I bet that half the guys any of the girls here ask that to, will be like "Why, do you want to have sex with me?" It's what we're made for. It's on our minds 90% of the time.
3. It would plant a seed of doubt in my mind. I can't help it. It's bad enough she's been gone 3 months already, and won't be back till mid july. I feel that if she truly feels "we" are worth it, then it's a good idea to avoid any situation which may compromise the integrity of our relationship, and more importantly, our trust.
4. I would never do such a thing to her...to me it's a simple matter of the golden rule. One on One "outings" with the opposite sex, regardless of relationship to me is just disrespectfull, and inviting trouble.
5. Now, the danger here, is I could be the "bad boyfriend"...the guy who tries to control her by limiting what she can and can't do. I don't want to do that. In fact, I tried to make it as clear as possible that I was only trying to tell her how I felt about it, and of the possible dangers it would pose to us.
6. Another thing is...she tells me she thinks he could be gay. Well, we don't know that for sure. She said it didn't seem like he was interested when they were in Europe...but then I pointed out the fact that staying in a room with 4 other people usually ixnay's any chance of romance. I don't know this guy...I don't trust or like this situation.
To me, it's like a recovering alcoholic getting a job at the Beer Store. Why tempt fate?
Ok...what do you guys think? I'd like opinions from everyone on this.
- There is a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path.
1. She was figuring on staying with him for a while. Ummmm...No. No sleeping at some dude i've never met's place...no showering, no nothing. Is this unreasonable?
2. I don't feel it's entirely a trust issue on her part...I do trust her. I don't trust him. For you ladies out there, ask one of your guy friends this hypothetical question: If they had a female friend that was relatively attractive, if the opportunity arose, would they have sex with them? I'm willing to bet 99% of the time the answer would be yes. In fact, I bet that half the guys any of the girls here ask that to, will be like "Why, do you want to have sex with me?" It's what we're made for. It's on our minds 90% of the time.
3. It would plant a seed of doubt in my mind. I can't help it. It's bad enough she's been gone 3 months already, and won't be back till mid july. I feel that if she truly feels "we" are worth it, then it's a good idea to avoid any situation which may compromise the integrity of our relationship, and more importantly, our trust.
4. I would never do such a thing to her...to me it's a simple matter of the golden rule. One on One "outings" with the opposite sex, regardless of relationship to me is just disrespectfull, and inviting trouble.
5. Now, the danger here, is I could be the "bad boyfriend"...the guy who tries to control her by limiting what she can and can't do. I don't want to do that. In fact, I tried to make it as clear as possible that I was only trying to tell her how I felt about it, and of the possible dangers it would pose to us.
6. Another thing is...she tells me she thinks he could be gay. Well, we don't know that for sure. She said it didn't seem like he was interested when they were in Europe...but then I pointed out the fact that staying in a room with 4 other people usually ixnay's any chance of romance. I don't know this guy...I don't trust or like this situation.
To me, it's like a recovering alcoholic getting a job at the Beer Store. Why tempt fate?
Ok...what do you guys think? I'd like opinions from everyone on this.
- There is a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path.
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