I'll try to explain the whole mess a bit better:
I want to create proper 3d menus for my blog (which I have to redesign completely - again).
http://www.revelation-of-silence.com/
Now, I'm want to "emboss" everything that is NOT outside the 2 vertical lines and that is NOT in the main frame where the main text is; that leaves us 50px on the left side, then the 200px at the top, and the 300px menu on the right side.
I will create 3 different graphics and divs and put them together, that isn't the issue - I just wanted to show you what I actually aim for.
Now, for the effect .. the photoshop emboss effect somehow looks .. too cheap. No proper reflection on the side where the "light" comes from, no proper, smooth shadowing ... I guess I want the whole thing to look a bit more realistic.
I don't find a picture on the internet ... hmmm ... perhaps you understand what I mean if you think of the keywords "chrome" and "cool animated movies"

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I found this on google which shows how I created this stuff with that ancient font creation program 7 years ago (some Ulead product, I think):
http://www.timtomtam.de/~rockon/screenshots/arctic_new2.jpg
(the pic is shit, but the quality is not the point - just want to show how that tool in the other program worked)
it worked like a level editor really, you could design some shape you want to make "mountains" with (square, circle et cetera.), then basically the same options as the "emboss" layer ones in ps (just way more), and in the end, the whole thing looked more or less photo realistic.
Thanks Design VHL, your help is very much appreciated !